An Honest Discussion About Sexual Assault (Part 2)

I do not know if you saw it, but the other day, I did a post on all the sexual assault allegations we have seen over the past month. Now, I want to talk about the other side. The victims. Or should I say "victims." Don't stop reading because this isn't what you think.

Every time that we see a bunch of sexual assault claims, there's always those people who want either their 5 minutes of fame, or they just want to get revenge. This isn't just true with this subject. It's true with anytime something controversial comes up. It's just as disgusting and just like actual sexual assault, it isn't cool. Over the past few days, I've seen several girls claim to get sexually abused only to remove it because they knew they were wrong or proved wrong. That was the case in 2015 with Neck Deep's original guitarist, Lloyd Roberts. His allegations were proved false. I even saw the following tweet yesterday about The Maine's lead singer:

Should I tell her about John O’Callaghan orrrrrr https://t.co/sGGwq09IkP

— Jade. (@BLOODMlLK) November 15, 2017

Now that is completely unnecessary. I'm not saying John doesn't have any allegations but this tweet has 40+ replies asking her what she means. If she really has something against him, she needs to say it instead of literally causing problems. It's sick. If you do say something and it's wrong, you can be sued for defamation and I'm really glad that Don Broco is taking that approach.

Sexual allegations, true or not, can literally ruin a person's life. So if you just really don't like the person or just want to be famous, think twice before you post something.

Jayden Seeley of the band With Confidence was accused of it the other day and although he admitted to receiving nudes from a girl, she never revealed her age and sent those pictures to him without consent. Not to mention, she also constantly tried to get him to perform oral sex on her. Since shes the one who forced herself on him, she's really the one in the wrong and she had no right to keep screenshots then accuse him 4 years later when he's famous. If the stuff about With Con's guitarist, Luke Rockets never came out, this likely would have never happened. I'll post his statement below and as you can tell, he is very hurt by these allegations.

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— jayden seeley (@jaydenwithcon) November 15, 2017

In a lot of these cases (not all of them), the accused don't know the victim's age. And it's because these fangirls will do ANYTHING to get into the guy's pants.

Now to close this, I want to clear up something you may be thinking. I AM NOT victim shaming. I am calling out, the problem though. Fake allegations are so so so so wrong. And also, Twitter and Facebook are no place to make claims. Go to the police and tell them. Go ahead and talk about it comments.

Until Next Time,
Alex

An Honest Discussion About Sexual Assault

It's been in our world since really the beginning of time. And it isn't funny. It isn't cool. I'm talking about any form of sexual assault. Whether that's grabbing someone's ass without permission or a full on rape, that doesn't matter to me. It all violates people. It all makes people depressed and suicidal. It makes people blame themselves like its their fault. I've had friends that are victims. That hurts me man. Seeing #metoo posted constantly by friends last month just broke my heart every time. And now the past week, 3 members of bands that I very much look up to and listen to have been accused of either sexual assault or texting a minor about sex. It's so disgusting. They are famous and have thousands of fangirls. They'll invite them backstage only to be betrayed by a member of their favorite band. But they don't tell them to stop. And don't you freaking dare tell me "they easily could have told them to stop." Bullshit. If you've ever met your favorite band or a musician that you love, speaking is really hard to do. The people you look up to are talking to you. You don't want it to top. Although I have never texted with a band member, I have talked to them. It's exactly how I described it above. Now if that person or persons are texting you every day, you're constantly happy. You probably don't care that they are sending you nudes or asking you to have sex with them. You're just happy that you're texting them. It disgusts me. These people have control over the victims and they have so much power and they know that most people, especially minors do not know how to reply. If you struggle with depression or anxiety, like me, even a moment of happiness is addicting. When you're talking to your favorite band, you're obviously going to be nonstop happy. Now listen. Everyone. Yes. E V E R Y O N E struggles with lust and sexual thoughts. We are human. You can't stop it. Buuuuut what you can do is control it. Not act on those feelings. It really isn't hard. I've done it.

If you do act on it, let me speak to you. You're a pig. A monster. I don't want you to die but I want you to suffer. You're not cool. You're not funny. And you're ruining your life. And if you already have, I hope your life is ruined. I hope you just rot in jail with those other jackasses. I hope you never find a job. I hope your family disowns you. I hope you never find friends. I hope you never get married. I hope you're isolated to an island and never get to talk to another human being ever again. Don't die. Don't kill yourself. But your life is over. Not in the sense of death. But you're in for a world of hurt.

Jesse Lacey, Luke Rockets, Rob Damiani, Havey Weinstein, Dr. Luke, George Takei, Louis CK, Kevin Spacey, and anyone else who will be accused because there will be more: You all suck and are a disgusting excuse for human beings.

Until Next Time,
Alex Vanderspek

5 Bands Not To Sleep On

It's been a busy year and I just realized that I haven't done my annual 5 Bands To Look Out for post yet. So here it is! Enjoy!!

1.) Trophy Eyes

Trophy Eyes is a Pop Punk/Melodic Hardcore band from Australia. I discovered them earlier this year when looking up some of the smaller bands that were on Warped Tour. Besides "Chlorine," it took me a little bit to get used to them. But it didn't take long for me to become a fan. Over the past few months of being a fan, I've become borderline obsessed with these guys. Their music is like nothing else you've ever heard. Seriously, check out these guys before they blow up
FOR FANS OF: A Day To Remember, Being As An Ocean, The Story So Far
BEST SONGS: "Chlorine," "Nosebleed," "Chemical"

2.) Coin

Coin is an indie pop 4 piece that met at Belmont University in Nashville. They already do have quite a following, but they could still be considered "underrated." My friend told me to look them up and the second I did, I was hooked. They're currently doing a couple of headlining tours to support their latest effort How Will You Know If You Never Try? that came out in April of this year. I hope to see them because the music is phenomenal.
FOR FANS OF: Walk The Moon, Echosmith, Cage The Elephant
BEST SONGS: "Boyfriend," "Talk Too Much," "Don't Cry"

3.) LOYALS

Why not feature another Indie band out of Nashville? LOYALS is a trio that recently signed with Tooth & Nail Records. They only have two songs out so far, but don't let that fool you. I am constantly listening to them on repeat. Don't let them being signed to a "Christian" label fool you either. Yes, the band are Christians but its not obvious in their music. To me, this might be the best band that the 22 year old label has signed. Come back to me in a year or 2, because they are going to be YUUGE.
FOR FANS OF: The 1975, Imagine Dragons, Coldplay
BEST SONGS: "Skyline," "Alright"

4.) HAWAI 

"If this is for real, then maybe reel me in." Those are lyrics from the the title track of HAWAI's debut 2016 EP Working All Night. But don't be fooled. HAWAI is a band, not a state. They are also my friends. They've already released one EP and are about to release their second, which you can hear a small preview of right now with the song Alive. I can't get behind these guys enough. I was playing their song In My Head one day in Florida when my roommate walked in and said "This could be a hit." It really could and so could all of their music. Their bass-led, ocean-inspired indie rock is like nothing that I've heard. I'm really excited to hear what's next from these guys because it's only up from hear, especially since they've opened for bands like Switchfoot and are getting played on KROQ.
FOR FANS OF: Cold War Kids, Echosmith, Moon Taxi
BEST SONGS: "On My Own," "Alive," "I'm Not Dead"

5.) Turnover

Turnover is a Pop Punk turned Ambient Pop band out of Virginia. Before you say "oh, it's just another band that sold out," they are far from it. Their brand of pop is so different from everything else on the radio, which is why they'll get big. Once more people start hearing them, they will get huge and fast. They just put out their latest album, "Good Nature," on my birthday and although it isn't as good as 2015's Peripheral Vision, it's still a great album. Like many other fans have said, "Had Peripheral Vision not come before this, it would be a better album and that's what I've been saying to. But don't sleep on this band. Before you know it, they'll be playing huge venues.
FOR FANS OF: All Time Low, HAIM, Coldplay
BEST SONGS: "Good Nature," "Super Natural," "Dizzy On The Comedown"

Well there you go! There's this year's list of bands you should check out. Now why don't you sit down for a bit and listen to them?

Until Next Time, Alex

Review: Inside A Dream EP by Echosmith

Well, after a 3 year drought of new music, the Indie Pop trio Echosmith finally return in the form of a Summery, Pop laden EP that is sure to please many fans. After the departure of their brother, Jamie, many questioned what kind of music the band would make from that point on. Some people (like me) said pop, others said they were going to quit. It certainly felt like the latter with no new music for such a long time. But, fear not! Echosmith is back with what I think to be the best music of their career. I'm eager to hear the full record in April, but these 7 songs will do just fine for now.

The EP starts out with "Lessons," a song that begins with an acoustic guitar, and may remind many fans of the lead single "Goodbye." It's a track that many people may find relatable. It basically says that sometimes love feels so good that you really dont know how fast its going or where it's going and that we should learn from other love songs. They end the song by saying "Maybe one day someone can learn from our love song," which is really clever writing.

"Lessons" goes straight into "Get Into My Car." Its a song that is very guitar and synth-driven and could find major success on pop radio. Sometimes, you just really like someone but they don't feel the same. That's what I feel like this song talks about. Like you just want to show said person how much love you have, but they aren't willing to even give you a frickin chance. I know I, for one, can relate to that.

The third song on the EP is easily my favorite. They teased "Hurts To Be 18" about a year ago, when lead vocalist Sydney announced her fashion line with Hollister. Me, as well as hundreds of others have been dying to hear it since. After hearing the full track, I can say it's my favorite on the EP and definitely one of my favorite songs by them to date. It's a song about not being ready to grow up, and I know many people, including me have said that.

"Future Me" is a song that, lyrically is like their breakout single "Cool Kids." It's about being ready for what the future has to bring. You don't want to change for anyone. It kind of, to me, is a continuation of "Hurts To Be 18." The previous song was talking about not wanting to grow up, but in this one, she realizes that she is ready to grow up and that her future is who she is right now.

In June is when we finally got the taste of new Echosmith in the form of "Goodbye," which is also the 5th song on the EP. The song came with a tour and album announcement, both releases got pushed back to the spring. But "Goodbye" is about people in your life that gave up on you. But when you find who you are, they want back in, when truth is, you've moved on and grown up and don't want them in your life anymore.

The 6th song on the EP, is my least favorite. "Hungry" is a good song, but it's not a song that I would find myself listening to on its own. It's another song about wanting someone's love really bad, but not as memorable as "Get Into My Car." Overall, the song is okay, but not one I would find myself coming back to unless it came on shuffle or I was listening to the EP.

The EP closes with the acoustic song "Dear World." Its a song that the world definitely needed. We see all these Hurricanes, Fires, Shootings, etc. and the world doesn't seem like its getting any better. It's a love letter telling the world that you want the be the one to start the change. It was co-written by the singer of my favorite band, Switchfoot. When I first heard it, I really though "Whoa, it feels like this could be a Jon Foreman song." Sure enough, he tweeted that he cowrote it with the band. It's also the first song Jamie has played on since 2014's "Terminal."

Overall, Inside A Dream, is full of bops, that I will keep jamming for the next 6 months till the full record comes out. I'm really hoping they'll add an Orlando, Florida date, seeing as I will be there during the tour. I'm happy to finally have new music from Echosmith and can't wait to hear more already.

Top 3 Songs: Get Into My Car, Future Me, Hurts To Be 18

Rating: 3.5/4 out of 5


Until Next Time, Alex

Praising God No Matter What

I juts wanted to take a few moments to talk about something major that occurred this weekend in a place very near to my heart and why I didn't respond appropriately.

If you weren't aware, this week, the hurricane from hell invited herself into homes across Caribbean Islands such as Cuba and Puerto Rico, completely leveling a couple more, and made it's way to Florida as a category 4 storm. This is the 4th hurricane in the past 2 weeks that have been over a category 2 that hit land. 2 hit North America, 2 hit some Caribbean islands, and one hit Central Mexico (just a day after they had an 8.2 earthquake). During all of this, my anxiety was so high, seeing as I have friends in Miami, Orlando, and Puerto Rico. I let Satan control my thoughts. He told me that a good God wouldn't allow this destruction to happen. At times, I believed him. Like God controls everything so why is He allowing all this to happen? I even was at a point where I didn't want to live because this world is just getting worse and worse and there is nowhere safe to live anymore. I wasn't praising God in the storm. But when I got a notification on my phone that my friend from Miami snapchatted me at the end of my lunch break at work, for the first time in almost a day. Not even 5 minutes before that, I tweeted the following:

Just have to keep telling myself that God is good all the time.

— Alex ϟF (@VanderSPOCK) September 11, 2017

 That was maybe the first time during this chaos that I actually gave God the praise. I wouldn't call the snapchat a reward but maybe He was holding it off until I could actually say that He is good no matter what.

So why do we as humans do this? We have to stop letting Satan into our brains. If you have the YouVersion Bible App, there's plenty of studies on there about anxiety and trusting God. Next time something like this happens, I've learned and will praise Him no matter what. Because next time, I could be in the middle of the disaster.

Until Next Time, Alex

My DCP Experience: How to Survive DCP Recruiting Season

So here you are. You've finally decided to apply for the Disney College Program. Although the initial application takes only about 20 minutes, the entire recruiting season is about 2 and a half months. So what can you expect in the application. Below, I will give detailed explanations of each step as well as a tip or two to help you not go insane, especially since the entire DCP Recruiting Season is a waiting game. And before I start, know that your dashboard and timeline don't mean anything, any significant updates will be in your email. Mine show up in junk almost every time, so be checking there.

1.) Applying
I mean it's kind of obvious that step 1 is applying. What you may not know is when doing the application, you NEED to pay attention and read every word in it. The first few pages are simple, it just asks for your info, work history, etc. When you get to the role interest page, only put interest in roles you are qualified/want to do. They will consider you for every role you put down, even as low interest. This also doesn't mean, only put interest attractions, because I guarantee that won't get you too far in the application.

2.) Interviews
Typically, you'll know pretty quickly if you got the first interview, a Web-Based Interview, which is essentially just like the questionnaire you would do on a normal job application, just this one includes questions about Disney itself. Immediately after the WBI, you'll find out if you got the second and final interview, a Phone Interview. Don't stress it too much. Just imagine if you were sitting at a desk with the manager in front of you. He or she is just on the phone this time around. Don't, I repeat DO NOT write you answers down and read them. For one, they could ask you completely different questions from the ones you wrote down and second, you could sound scripted if you do that and that will more than likely end up in you being NLIC'd (No Longer In Consideration). You got to the phone interview, so you already basically have the job, now its up to you why you deserve to be one of the 7,000 College Program Participants they hire every semester.

3.) Job Offer!
Congrats! You got offered a job. When offered the job, you will have a week to accept the position, pay the program fees, and select the dates of your program. When I did it in Orlando in Spring 2017, the fee was $350, so be prepared to pay that within a week, or they will assume you're turning down the position and you don't want that. The $350 pays for your first week and a half of rent, as well all the free events during the semester (a lot of the time, they'll come with dinner and/or a souvenir). I unfortunately do not know the fees for Anaheim's Program.
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Now that you've accepted the position, what's next? Depending on when you're offered the position, you should have about 2.5-3 months to prepare for your move to Orlando (or Anaheim). This is more than enough time, but don't save shopping and packing till the last week before you leave. It'll put a lot of stress on you and whoever you may live with. You wont get your first paycheck until about 1 or 2 weeks into your program (depends on when your Traditions is), so I suggest bringing about $200 or $300 for that time. That's food and in case you see something (or two or three) in a store that you really like and want. I think I've covered everything that I need to! My prayers are with you and I hope you get the job!

Until Next Time, Alex 

My DCP Experience: Surviving A Disney Park 101

It's Summer. Which only means one thing. Everyone is going to Disneyland or Disney World. I mean, why not? Both parks are in really beautiful places, so it just makes sense. Seeing as I have been going to Disneyland my whole life (literally) and I worked at Disney World for 4 months, I know my way around the parks, even when it's annoyingly busy and you're about to lose your freakin' mind. So here are a few tips that you may or may not know, whether its your 1st or 100th time at a park.

1. Stores 
There's 2 things you should utilize about stores. The first is a shortcut, or as I like to call it a "storecut." Almost every Disney park has stores that just go from the beginning of Main Street to the middle. Its a great way to get where you want and fast. The second option is to shop early. Disney can hold your purchases until the end of the day for free, or if you're on vacation, they can even have it shipped to your house or placed in your hotel room.

2. Free Water!
Every Quick Service in the parks have free ice water. All you have to do is ask for it and they'll give it to you. No purchase necessary! It's a great way to cool off especially in the hot California or Florida Summers. Just note, by default you will get kids size cup of it, if you would like a regular or large cup, just ask!

3. Go To The Shows!
Most of the shows at WDW or Disneyland are indoors and air conditioned. Not only that, they put a lot of work into these shows. They have been known to be Broadway quality. What show do I recommend? The Tiki Room. Its the only show that allows you to eat inside. Plus, watching birds sing while eating a Dole Whip sounds like the dream!

4. Downtown Disney/Disney Springs
If you've ever been to a Disney Park, you know the food is borderline overpriced. But there's a solution to that with a way to get out of the crowds. Both US parks have a shopping district with food and clothing. Some of the food in both are cheaper than the in-park food. I suggest Blaze Pizza if you are at Disney Springs and Earl of Sandwich if you are at Downtown Disney. Another plus is both have World of Disney stores that have a lot of the same merchandise as inside the parks, without the crowds.

5. Free Soda?
Yes! I think my favorite part about any of the parks is Club Cool at EPCOT. They have free Coca-Cola soda samples from all over the world. There's no limit to how many cups you are allowed, but be sure to watch out for parties who are trying Beverley for the first time, it might be quite a sight... I think you need to try all of them once, but my favorite is the Melon Frosty.


That's all I have for now, but as I think of more, I'll add more!

Until Next Time, Alex